My jobs

One of my jobs I have recently resigned. In summary I was being bullied and taken for granted. Therefore I have been quiet stressed lately. The thing is, if my partner was diagnosed with Lupus or Diabetes or even broke their legs, I would have felt comfortable saying to my boss, “My partner has just been diagnosed with ...” so that my boss would lay off me for a while. However, I did not feel comfortable telling my boss that my partner is transitioning from female to male. It is just too personal the information, but at the same time I want some understanding of my life and the extra stress I am under. I think this situation highlights the stigma of gender variant people and that this stigma is an added stress of being a partner.
My other job is going really well, and they have offered me more work – doing the same thing but at another facility. Since I started this job, I have used male pronouns when talking about my partner. However one of the psychologist at the other facility I did my doctorate with, and they know that I identify as lesbian (or I did during the doctorate - not sure how I identify anymore). I guess I had not thought about running into people in my past.
I have not kept up with contacts from the doctorate. I was a bit on the outer, I think due to being gay. Actually I was the only girl in the class not invite to baby showers and hen’s nights. This actually really hurt my feelings, as I would still like to go to these events, and people should not jump to conclusions based on sexual preferences. Anyway, even though I am friends with many on facebook, I have not contacted any of my ex-fellow students to give them updates on my life. Actually not one of my friends commented (on facebook) on the name change of Max.
So now I have to speak to Linda before I start using male pronouns at the new facility as I don’t want to be seen as a liar (similar thoughts as before). I am not sure what she has said to the others, she could have outed me as lesbian before I start. I am actually quiet anxious about this situation. I do want to be honest to Linda and talk to her; I just hope I get the time.