5 month on T and family update

Time for an update on T changes and family, I think, well Max’s family has really been quiet slow to establish a clear and open dialogue. I know it is a lot to get use to but, the T won’t wait for any body. Max has spoken to his Mum twice since the phone call in June, and he has not spoken to his Dad at all. His Mum states that his Dad is still too upset to talk about it. At least the conversations with his Mum are going well, last time she was asking questions and listening to the answers (which is not like her, as she can be absorbed with her own life). We have also not seen his brother for awhile. They (his brother and his brother’s wife) told us that they were fine with it and that they will tell the kids soon, but nothing has eventuated. I am not sure if they understand how fast the changes T can make. I hope that when we see the niece and nephew that they are not too shocked. They are young and I am sure will roll with the changes fine.

Five months today Max started T. I have noticed quite a few changes. His voice is a lot lower, his face has changed shape (his cheeks are bigger as is his chin, also the skin is not as smooth), his has a lot more hair, more muscles and strength, he is broader in the shoulders and there has been a lot of changes in weight distribution. There have also been psychological and emotional changes too. Emotionally he reports that he cannot cry like he use to, even if he wishes he just cannot. He also stated that his empathic response has changed too. He doesn’t want to sit around and “chit chat” anymore, he wants to “get out and do things”. Psychologically he has been so much happier, his confidence has increased, and he has more energy and is enjoying life. He is still stressed from time to time about his family coping with his transition but that is normal.

I notice that I have not written anything about his work situation. I will have to do that in the future.

T - has started

23/03
We went and saw his GP this morning together. I wanted to go because Max has a way of reducing his story so he does not have to burden his GP (bit weird I know, but he is a sensitive soul). We told his GP how bad his depression was and how we don't have an appointment with the psychiatrist (or that we don't even know when we might get one). Max's GP was actually quite shocked that we did not even have an appointment booked (Max stated later that his GP is not shocked often). His GP said is was no point changing his antidepressants and that maybe the thing to do was to start T. So we went through the Informed Consent Method and got a script for T there and then. We were actually quite surprised, as we were not expecting it so soon and did not know if the GP would do Informed Consent. Max's GP offered to do the injection later the same day after Max gets the script filled. As soon as this was offered, Max was starting to smile.

I had to go to work, so Max got his script filled, went back and got his first shot of T. When I got home he was listening to music, doing the ironing and SMILING. It was so great to see. It feels like a weight has been lifted off. I know that we have challenges ahead, but it is good to finially start. We decided to watch some more YouTube videos on the first 4 weeks of testosterone. We did notice that Max was clearing his throat a bit, and he reported that it was a bit sore.

24/03
Last night Max slept poorly. He was unwell due to eating something that did not agree with him, but also he was really hungry (which is not like him especially in the middle of the night). He also felt a little more hot than usual in bed. During the day, today, he noticed that he is sweating more. He better shower every day! I am really quite amazed at how quick some things have occurred.