Told my Mum

Max and I drove down to see my Mum yesterday to get her internet organised for her. We had planned that we would tell her today, so I had with me a fact sheet from the NSW Gender Centre entitled "the transsexual person in your life". It is very well written fact sheet explaining terminology, hypothesised caues and website/resources, thus we thought it would be a great starting point for her.

We started the conversation with "You know how butch Jen is ..." and went from there. I felt so nervous, but Mum was SO GOOD. She did not even bat an eyelid. She sat and listened, then told us that she has a friend Sarah who use to be a man. She din't really ask many questions, but it is still early days. We told her about what the changes will be in regards to taking T and having surgery (we did not go into detail about surgery as we did not want ot overwhelm her). We also told her that we have already changed pronouns and that Max has officially changed his name. She picked it up immediately, though she did say that she might forget from time to time. We told her that, we make mistakes too about it, and that we would never jump down someone's throat for this, if it is by accident. We spoke about telling my Dad and how he might reaction and also our nervousness of telling Max's parents. Mum gave her support and love. We could not have hoped for it to have gone any better. She texted me later that night saying "Hi S and Max, just read your paper. Quite interesting! You absolutely have my support. Love Mum".

My Mum is wonderful!